I partly agree.You know,romantic attractions often begin with superficial factors—such as shared personalities or hobbies—the challenges of cohabitation reveal deeper incompatibilities.When couples face daily routines and life-defining decisions together, conflicts are bound to arise. These conflicts often reflect fundamental differences in culture, education, values, and traditions. Therefore, interracial couples (who typically come from distinct national, ethnic, or religious backgrounds and divergent cultural-social upbringings) tend to experience more pronounced divisions compared to same-culture couples. Due to the division is not easy to be resolved and the conception of a person won't easily wobbled,so many interracial marriages end in divorce. However,successful interracial unions are far from impossible.The cornerstone of any lasting relationship—regardless of racial or cultural background—is mutual understanding and tolerance. This principle applies universally .As for the couple described in the passage,they are the epitome of a lot of marriaged couples who never truly understand each other ,communicate deeply with each other,and make changes for each other.Just like the husband in the passage,he never shut up even thought he know a qurraling will happen. In my opinion,spouses should view each other as your lover,not your opponent.Sustaining a relationship requires flexible compromise (within ethical boundaries) and intentional "relationship maintenance."The longevity of any marriage—interracial or not—depends on this willingness to evolve together while respecting core identities. In another word,the couple need to change a little for each other and constantly make running-in,then they may keep the marriage long.
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Unit 2 Read the Passage
In Tobias Wolff’s Say Yes, a central strain between the husband and wife is illuminated and never settled by the end of the story. The tension revolves around racism and the meaning of true love. In this story plot, point of view and irony reveal a married couple that becomes strangers.
The story is ironic. The husband says interracial couples should not marry because they have no hope of understanding each other. He ironically fails to see that he and Ann are having a hopeless failure to understand each other at the very same moment.
The husband is also left nameless by the author, emphasizing his lack of self-knowledge, and Ann’s inability to understand or truly know him.
Just as his views on interracial marriage reduce complex humans to simple colors that can never know each other, his failure to connect with his own wife in the end reduces her to a simple color moving through the dark. With the final words of the story, she becomes “a stranger” to him.
The ending suggests that both Ann and her husband are correct. The husband is correct that interracial couples can never truly know one another, but only because no one in any marriage can ever truly know their spouse. Ann, by this logic, is also correct that interracial couples should of course be allowed to marry, as their marriages are no more hopeless than those of any other couple.
What do you think of the ideas presented in the above passage? Do you agree or disagree? Why?
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I agree with this view. The irony in the story reflects the hypocrisy of the husband, and it also reflects the different ideas between him and his wife at the time. Husband Nameless emphasizes that the husband has no self-knowledge, implying that the husband cannot really understand the wife.
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I agree with the above.
As the above said, marriage of the same race is not so good, interracial marriages may not always be happy. No matter what color race or gender of two people, the premise of being loved must not be based on appearance, or even just because of the different cultural backgrounds of the two people are meant to be impossible to come together, which is biased. I think a good marriage must be based on respect. Your wife or husband is not your appendage, they are independent individuals, with independent personality, which requires both husband and wife to discuss everything to communicate to respect, your subjectivity is the same, is on the same level, you should and must have the same dialogue.
Second, it is obvious that the text of the couple's marriage has appeared problem, obviously this quarrel happened more than once. They don't know each other, and they don't want to go into each other's hearts, which can lead to escalating conflicts and arguments. Both husband and wife can express their opinions, and when they reach the flashpoint of conflict, they should stop in time, discuss a solution to the problem, and work together in that direction.
Marriage is not about playing house, marriage is a long stream, is fuel, rice, oil and salt, a happy life needs two people to work together, constantly run in, will come to the end, which both sides will give up their own original some things, do not be bitter, this is your upgrade together to fight strange MEDALS, small happiness in life will continue to feed you happiness.
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I agree with these ideas. The passage tells us that couples should communicate and understand each other. Racial discrimination is inevitable, but it is not insurmountable. Do not wait until the couple eventually becomes strangers before they regret it. In addition, I believe that love has no boundaries. Regardless of race or cultural background, the affection between husband and wife should always be maintained with care. If the husband in the passage truly understood his wife, he would not have felt hurt that night.
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I disagree with some of the viewpoints in the article.
Although the article emphasizes the difficulties in marriage, the alienation between husband and wife may be due to a lack of communication and understanding, rather than solely due to differences in racial perspectives. Therefore, attributing all misunderstandings in marriage to racial differences may be overly one-sided. In addition, the article also emphasizes that it is impossible to fully understand one's spouse in any marriage, which is overly pessimistic and ignores the fact that many couples can overcome difficulties through effort and understanding.
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I agree with this view. I think true love knows no race, love can win all difficulties, and two people who love each other enough can also understand each other. The husband argues that couples of different races cannot marry because they cannot understand each other, but it can also be seen from the text that even couples of the same race cannot really understand each other, and the husband's narrow view of interracial marriage contrasts with his own marriage and his wife's incomprehension, which is ironic.
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I think the ideas in this article are partly correct. Because both the husband's and the wife's perspectives are one-sided. The husband believes that people of different races won't understand each other, but he overlooks the process of mutual understanding between the two. The wife thinks that interracial couples can marry each other, but she idealizes love too much. While the husband is too practical and rigid, unwilling to be flexible. Therefore, I believe that interracial couples can form a perfect and beautiful marriage on the basis of mutual understanding, jointly facing all kinds of events and difficulties in life.
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Yes,I agree with this idea.In any marriage,regardless of race,complete understanding between partners is intricate.It reflects a deeper truth about marrige in general,that true understanding between parteners is difficult regardless of race.Interracial couples should be allowed to marry as they have the same potential for love and connection as any other couple,despite the challenges they may face.
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First of all,I think that both the views of the wife-Ann or husband are one-side,so I don't agree with them.As for the husband's view,although there are differences in culture ,background,experiences,educational attainments,language,and so on between husband and wife , there is love and they are willing to consider each other's feeling and make changs for each other.As for the wife's view,the wife is too aggressive and only wants to get the result.But love can also be affected by irreversible factors.Ln conclusion,I think that love is not the bussiness of just one person. Instead,it requires the dedicated efforts of two pepole to water it.
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I agree with the above viewpoints, whether from the perspective of the wife or the husband. Both of their viewpoints are correct, just from different standpoints. From the perspective of marriage, this is not a perfect marriage. Both sides have their own opinions. And regardless of whether they are of the same race or not, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage.
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I agree with the ideas. The husband's view reflects that he thought interracial couples were hard to understand each other. In reality, i think different races have diffrent living habitis and culture backgrounds., these are difficult to get over.
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I agree with this viewpoint because of differences in race, upbringing, experiences, and values. Even if they say they understand each other and are willing to change something for each other, there must be something inside them that cannot be overcome
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I agree with that. The husband, for his part, thinks it's okay to be friendly with black people as co-workers, but it's hard to accept them as marriage partners because of their different racial backgrounds. For her part, the wife agreed to interracial marriage because their marriage was no more disappointing than that of other couples. Understanding in marriage is limited, and understanding of communication between couples, regardless of ethnic background, is the key to a successful marriage.
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I agree with the idea.In reality,a couple comes from the same racial and cultural backgrounds, misunderstandings often occur and they can't fully feel what they felt.And this contrast is highly ironic and reveals the blindness and self-contradiction that often exist in human nature. It is reasonable for us to deeply feel the limitations of the characters and the hidden crises in marital relationships.
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I agree with this idea.It is quite normal that there are different values among different races. It is also normal that there are areas where spouses do not understand each other. Both of these couples have their own reasonable viewpoints.
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I agree with the view that this story is ironic, that the husband is also left nameless by the author, and the ending show that both Ann and her husband's viewpoints are reasonable. Because he attempts to deny the possibility of interracial marriage on the grounds of racial differences, but he ignorants the problems of understanding and communication that also exist in his own marriage. This shows that this husband lacks self-awareness, which is also the reason why the author omits his name. Moreover, since marriage is complex and diverse, it is reasonable for Ann and her husband to express different viewpoints from different perspectives.
However, I do not agree with the view that “no one in any marriage can ever truly know their spouse”. This view is too absolute. Although there are indeed difficulties in communication and understanding in a marriage, through efforts, communication and mutual respect, couples can understand each other.
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I agree with the ideas. It is reasonable that in interracial marriage, truly knowing a spouse is difficult. However, interracial couples can build deep connections through communication, respect, and shared experiences. Many successful interracial marriages show that love and effort can bridge differences.
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I agree with the viewpoints presented above. The husband's thinking is correct. In a marriage, both spouses should understand each other. For couples from different racial backgrounds, there might be a situation where they can't fully understand each other. At the same time, what the wife said is also right. Interracial couples can get married if they are truly attracted to each other. They should understand each other and try to think from the other's perspective more often in order to reach an agreement.
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I agree with the viewpoints presented above. The husband's thinking is correct. In a marriage, both spouses should understand each other. For couples from different racial backgrounds, there might be a situation where they can't fully understand each other. At the same time, what the wife said is also right. Interracial couples can get married if they are truly attracted to each other. They should understand each other and try to think from the other's perspective more often in order to reach an agreement.
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I agree with it.Perhaps in the eyes of others, interracial marriage is hard to accept, thinking that the two have no common topics and no common cultural background, making it difficult for them to communicate. But in fact, what keeps two people together in marriage and running their own family is not just these. More importantly, it is the mutual understanding and consideration between the couple. Even in an interracial marriage, it is the same. I will not change you because of my beliefs, and you will not change yourself because of your beliefs. We respect and understand each other.
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I agree with the idea. The husband's belief that people of different skin colors cannot get married reflects his racist concept. I think， in a marriage， both sides should understand each other. When they face some obstacles, they should learn to handle problems correctly.
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I don't entirely agree.Whether in interracial or same-race marriages, only by abandoning the violence of "othering" others can we reach the shores of mutual understanding.This conclusion is partially correct but risks diluting the critical edge of the racial issues.
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Honestly i against some view of this article .
The real lover always tends to learn each other whatever how hard is . They will spend time integrating into thier culture . Interracial people can get married , and they can also choose their husband/wife's skin's colours . It is his point of view, but not every one .So husband has prejudice on it .Maybe it caused by the limitation of personal's experience.
Back to wife ,she sticks to her own thought that inerracial couples can love and know each other , even they from diffrent culture systems , but she in a emotional situation ,and answer may be effectede by her moods .
Put simply i don't think their marriage has cracks ,just some kind like a debate,they just learned more about both .
This is my point of view , if there something wrong ,just figure it out
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The analysis of the irony in the story is quite perceptive. The husband's failure to see the parallel between his views on interracial couples and his own relationship with Ann is a powerful literary device. The author's choice to leave the husband nameless does seem to emphasize his lack of self - knowledge and the distance between him and Ann, which is an astute observation about the characterization.
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The author reveals universal truths about human relationships. Through irony, this view highlights the limits of human understanding and the hypocrisy of racist views.
I agree with that. The irony of the story reveals the complexity of human relationships and how, in any marriage, couples may not know each other, have gaps, and have their own ideas and personalities. -
I don't agree with the husband's statement above. I believe that people of different races can certainly intermarry. As long as two people truly love each other, they can face difficulties together in marriage, discuss issues together, and at the same time, show each other their true inner thoughts. This has nothing to do with race. However, in terms of personal preferences, it is everyone's own right to decide whom to marry, and we cannot judge whether a person is a racist just because of this.
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I disagree with this idea. I believe that as long as couples love each other and strive to understand one another, they can truly connect. Whether they are the same race or not, if they are committed to communicating and considering each other's perspectives, they can genuinely understand one another.
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I agree with this view. Both of their views are correct. Firstly, people of different races and from different countries have different cultural and life concepts, which can easily lead to conflicts. Secondly, a husband's concept of marriage is surely up to him. Whether he wants to marry someone of a different race is also his own right. After that, the wife is also right. Love shouldn't be restricted by race. After years of marriage, the husband still does as he pleases and doesn't consider her feelings, which is really disappointing.
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I agree with this view that marriage will not be affected by this because of skin color.A happy marriage should be based on mutual trust and understanding.Sometimes people from different races get married.There will be an experience that is fantastic.
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I agree the ideas.The husband said that he got along with the black but he could not accept be married with the black.So he is hypocritical but this character trait is different from his considerate.That is ironic.The author decides not to give the husband a name, which effectively emphasizes the husband's lack of self-awareness.Both the husband and Ann are right.Because they have a deep influence on culture,so we need look at their views critically.
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